So...my aunt died a couple of weeks ago, and the funeral's today. This is causing me problems.
First, I never seem to react to humans dying with anywhere near the same intensity as when one of our pets moves on...I do sort of wonder if this is something a bit broken there, probably related to my social ineptitude. Which, really, leads on to the more pertinent and immediate problem...
...I'm fine (ish) with modern funerals where it's supposed to be a celebration and everybody's swapping happy stories and stuff. This one, however, is a traditional funeral with everyone being somber and...I know I'm going to spend the whole time paranoid that said lack of social skills is going to end up with me offending one or more people. The issue is that her side of the family don't really know me and aren't likely to take my particular flavour of accidentally inappropriate comment (primarily injecting humour whenever things are a bit uncomfortable) very well.
Really dreading this
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Good luck, I'm sure it will be fine.
It was my g/f's mum's funeral last year. Her dad's mum is 'of a different era' shall we say... there was an unintentionally funny moment where after the service she came up to me and said "I've worked out who you remind me of - you look like my Jew friend". Every time I meet her she seems to ask if I'm Muslim or Jewish, or "are weddings different in your culture"... no, I've only ever lived in the U.K. but I usually have a beard so I guess that confuses some older people.
Later at the wake she came up to me saying she'd spoken to my dad at the service (who is from the Middle East) and said she'd told him the same thing. I phoned my dad, who couldn't attend the wake, and he said she'd come up to him and asked what church he attended (he was raised Christian FWIW) then said "oh, but you look like a Jew". He found it funny... Even my g/f found that funny in an obviously quite inappropriate way... I don't think you'll be anywhere near that bad.
Also, I think pets are much more part of ourselves than people. We don't know how a dog or cat or hamster feels or thinks so we project human-style feelings and thoughts onto them. When a pet dies it's like a part of ourselves dies as well.
I've never cried at a person dying but I have cried at pets.
I too find myself being aloof and cold at most funerals, it's just how I get by. I'm there to support others.
Just be yourself..after all, who the fuck else can you be?
It'll be over before you know it.
I'd follow the herd in being polite and respectful, but you shouldn't feel obligated to keep talking. If asked just say you're reflecting on life etc
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there was a huge funeral in our village down here in devon, weren't the same one was it?!?
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