What chance finding someone with just a name?

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axisusaxisus Frets: 11389
I'm guessing pretty non existent.

Way back in 82 I went to art college and had a great time for 3 years. Just managed to scrape a degree out of it as well. I had a great pal for the first year, we were close buddies, but the whole college ethic didn't sit well with him and he ended up pissing about and got kicked off the course after the first year. He was always smoking weed, and I knew that he used to live with friends the year before and they all got into drugs.

Not a great sign, but the 'friends' turned up in the same city, off to the local Uni. They seemed nice enough. Anyway, after being kicked out I didn't see him for a year, and then one day he came looking and found me. It was a bit of a shock, he had got badly into drugs and was visibly affected. No longer the strong minded, strong willed physical person I knew, he was dishevelled, barely liked to make eye contact, was lost for words. It was rather heartbreaking to be honest. That was the last time I ever saw him, but I have wondered so much over the years what happened to him. 

I was in my loft the other day looking for something, and out of the blue I found a pic of him in an art studio that I don't recognise ever seeing before. It made me think that I would love to know if he is still alive, but all I have to go on is his name and that he came from the South Coast somewhere?

I'm thinking this is a lost cause. I've done stuff like google and Facebook searches for his name but not sure what else one can do?
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  • ESBlondeESBlonde Frets: 2474
    Try posting the picture and ask people to share on the basefook. Stranger things have happened.
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  • MrBumpMrBump Frets: 527
    Are you prepared to find him..?  I wonder if that sort of thing ever ends well...
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  • FretwiredFretwired Frets: 17708
    Tried Google, LinkedIn and 192 ..


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  • SassafrasSassafras Frets: 12733
    Look, it's over, OK.
    You hurt me so bad back in 82 I had to drop out of my first year of art college.
    There's no going back.
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  •  I honestly think some things are just best left alone. 
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  • usedtobeusedtobe Frets: 2622
    I’ve tried finding old friends, when I get random flashbacks. Sometimes you get lucky, sometimes you don’t. I hope you don’t regret it, if you do find him. It happens sometimes..
     so if you fancy a reissue of a guitar they never made in a colour they never used then it probably isn't too overpriced.

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  • RockerRocker Frets: 2825
    The Uni may be able to help, they could/might help with contact details for class reunions etc. Generally such friendships are best left in the past. The happened then, you moved on, your friend moved on.
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  • octatonicoctatonic Frets: 19098
    Depends on the name.

    John Smith might be tricky.
    Flobbity Blipbop would be somewhat easier.
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  • crunchmancrunchman Frets: 3948
    Do you know what school he went to?  Most secondary schools have some kind of Facebook page that old pupils sign up to.
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  • MyrandaMyranda Frets: 2728
    It does rather depends on the name, if there are middle names etc

    John Smith - no chance
    John Robert Smith - probably not
    Ezekiel Zebediah Archibold-Smith chances are much better

    Rather a morbid option but you can often search obits ... 

    searching for a name gets reasonable results in Facebook, Myspace (it still exists...) 192.com etc. can yield results... 
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  • FunkfingersFunkfingers Frets: 3462
    axisus said:
    I would love to know if he is still alive
    I have a similar lost contact experience from my college days.

    In my case, I heard that one of my former house sharers had been involved in a motorcycle accident. The only contact information I had was his parents' home telephone number. I could not bring myself to call them.

    The one other person who might have been able to enlighten me was another of the former house sharing bunch. He and I were no longer on speaking terms after his then girlfriend took a shine to me. 

    No obituaries appeared in the local press. Eventually, I stopped worrying about it ... to the extent that, today, I cannot recall the guy's full name, only his nickname.
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  • ewalewal Frets: 790
    I have occasionally thought about looking up a long lost 'friend' who moved to London. However she could well have a different surname nowadays. 'nuff said... probably very wise not to go there...
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  • axisusaxisus Frets: 11389
    His name is a bit unusual - it only occurs once on facebook (and that isn't him). 
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  • CHRISB50CHRISB50 Frets: 1935
    Pretend he's a scammer on here. Let the sleuths find him for you.

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    But don't ask me what I think of you, I might not give the answer that you want me to

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  • crunchmancrunchman Frets: 3948

    Someone posted this link above:

    https://www.192.com/people/electoral-roll/

    You can use it to search the electoral roll.  It's worth a try, although it isn't complete.  Some people (including me) opt out of the electronic searchable version so we don't get as much junk sent to us, and for privacy reasons.  Even then an old record from 2002/3 comes up when I search for me.  Thankfully that isn't at my current address.

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  • octatonic said:
    Depends on the name.

    John Smith might be tricky.
    Flobbity Blipbop would be somewhat easier.
    @octatonic , is that Flobbity Blipbop of the Buckinghamshire Blipbops, or Flobbity Blipbop of the Devonshire Blipbops?
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  • thermionicthermionic Frets: 4992
    edited December 6
    With this kind of thing you need three pieces of information, not just the name. If you have say the town/city and a job/profession you'd have a good chance. I found the drummer in my first band this way. Lost contact in the 80s, but someone told me what his profession was and the part of the country he'd moved to. Found his business's facebook page - despite his surname being Jones!
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  • VeganicVeganic Frets: 408
    Some tips here:


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  • 57Deluxe57Deluxe Frets: 5967
    edited December 6
    After several attempts at different times I have tracked down people who were integral in my growing up and shared many great and significant memories with. However is a massive shock when you find them only to hear that they don't want to meet, don't remember any of these life changing moments and don't really like talking about the past anyway!

    Fuck you all then.
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  • not_the_djnot_the_dj Frets: 5666
    There's a gap in the market for a website that reunites old friends.... 
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  • ShrewsShrews Frets: 337
    @axisus ;

    Don't lose hope in finding this guy, chances are that he's fit and well, off the drugs, and living the life of riley somewhere. 

    Happy to do some searching for you if you can give me his name and last known location. 

    One thing that can catch people out is the spelling of names i.e Graham/Graeme and sometimes people use their middle names instead of their first names. 



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  • fields5069fields5069 Frets: 1530
    57Deluxe said:
    After several attempts at different times I have tracked down people who were integral in my growing up and shared many great and significant memories with. However is a massive shock when you find them only to hear that they don't want to meet, don't remember any of these life changing moments and don't really like talking about the past anyway!

    Fuck you all then.
    Yeah that happened to me last week. A girl I used to fantasise over while wanking furiously. Honesty is sometimes not the best policy apparently.
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  • NelsonPNelsonP Frets: 600
    There's a gap in the market for a website that reunites old friends.... 
    What a great idea - can't believe that no-one has thought of that before!
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  • not_the_djnot_the_dj Frets: 5666
    NelsonP said:
    There's a gap in the market for a website that reunites old friends.... 
    What a great idea - can't believe that no-one has thought of that before!
    I'm on it.....I've even got a catchy name for the site that tells you exactly what it's for....but I'm keeping that under wraps for now.

    This time next year I'll be a millionaire!
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  • KilgoreKilgore Frets: 1404
    edited December 6
    Jim Rockford and Magnum PI were good at this sort of stuff.

     If you call Jim, leave your name and number after the tone and he'll get back to you.
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  • sev112sev112 Frets: 389
    There's a gap in the market for a website that reunites old friends.... 
    seriously though, whatever happened to it?
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  • EricTheWearyEricTheWeary Frets: 7370

    I was talking about someone I used to know and he did have a distinctive name so I googled him a couple of weeks ago and found him straight away. Not with contact details but his involvement in a court case a few years ago. Definitely a downside there to having a distinctive name! 
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  • boogiemanboogieman Frets: 5300
    If it’s any consolation, I hooked up with an old schoolmate very recently. We hadn’t seen each other for 40 plus years. Turns out he’s an obnoxious wanker and that brought home exactly why I hadn’t bothered keeping in touch. Some things are best left in the past. 
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  • Jimbro66Jimbro66 Frets: 919
    sev112 said:
    There's a gap in the market for a website that reunites old friends.... 
    seriously though, whatever happened to it?
    It started as a great idea but gradually turned into an agency for putting school sweethearts in touch again which caused more than a few broken marriages. The owners pulled the plug a few years ago as it struggled to compete with other social media.
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  • Tone71Tone71 Frets: 261
    edited December 7
    I found my birth mother after 35 years with just a name and an area, it can be done.

    Registrar of births marriages and deaths is a good starting point, his name and age should never change.

    Some things though should be left in the past.
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