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We have been together 17 years and had a first nearly 3 years ago. earlier this year we moved to a new house with a 3rd bedroom fully intent on the idea we would be trying for a 2nd. Having a child did change the relationship, but we have been togetehr since we were teenagers so its already needed to change a few times and I don't think either of us were worried by this
A few months ago we both realised we didn't actually want a second at the moment. Its not because of the first, she is great. She is a very good girl but its still a finacial drain and a lot of work. a second could be totally different. My wife has never been happier than when she was pregnant so it was a bit of a shock to realise she felt the same as me about the potential second child.
We have not ruled it out for the future, but at the moment we will continue to enjoy the one we have.
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As valid an opinion as any.
Can't help thinking you might need a hug though.....
Noise, randomness, ballistic uncertainty.
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People's motivations to be a parent vary as wildly as people's reasons not to be a parent - so I think you've got a bit of a chip on your shoulder about this.
Bruce Lee was a dad
and the best thing you can do for anyone (partner, friend, child, parent) is be a shining example, all the absolutes it's EITHER this OR that (nothing in between) really points to you having preconceptions or if you're comfortable calling them so, fears.
Having kids means often being exhausted, bewildered, at war with a partner over conflicting values, bereft of free time and far from any dreams you had. The pay-off is rarely a warm glow - the pay off is solace: "I did the best I could", "I don't know how I could have helped that go better", "I'm probably to blame but at least that's over with" it's a hard job, no harder than being a master of any art or being successful businessman the end results are really not clear, so success and failure are harder to judge - if that's how you're wired.
As an outsider, you're mistaking the warm glow experienced as your kid rushing up to tell you something at the end of a hard day, for the oblivion of an eigth of blow, 8 Stella, 3 hours Xbox with a mate and then a shag before bedtime - it's not a like for like replacement... it might be, that in some situations parents get better at being grateful for really small things.. and ... it might be that that is the source of proper happiness NOT that parents would know or be any sort of expert on anything, least of all raising kids.
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I think as a kid I used to run hot baths and pretend they were like hugs.
Next week I'll be okay and you can have a hug then