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joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
I know this forum has needed a lot of luck recently, but I need some. 

My gran is currently in the icu, not sure if stroke and not sure on outcome 

Went to bed last night with the news she was getting better but confused , then was awoken at 4am to say she had been transferred to the icu and outlook was anyone's guess 

Home now for some food, then back to see her.   They have told me that she may be able to hear, so I'll be sure to pass on the good comments and thoughts. 

Most energetic 82yr old you would ever meet, this is so sudden.


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  • CHRISB50CHRISB50 Frets: 1448
    All the best to your gran. 

    Their generarion is made of tough stuff!

    I hope you have some good news soon. 

    I can't help about the shape I'm in, I can't sing I ain't pretty and my legs are thin

    But don't ask me what I think of you, I might not give the answer that you want me to

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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    Just back now, not much progress 

    A lot of seizures though, which she has never had. About 9 in the last hour :(
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  • axisusaxisus Frets: 8876
    Really hope your gran pulls through. Mine were both gone many years ago. I'd love to see them again, neither saw any of my children or even my wife. 
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  • boogiemanboogieman Frets: 4385
    All the best, hope she improves. 
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  • RockerRocker Frets: 2258
    All the best @joeyowen, hope your Gran improves. I believe that the hearing is the last thing to "go" so read her some poetry or an excerpt from her favourite book.
    Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. [Albert Einstein]

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  • Best of luck to you guys.
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  • ennspekennspek Frets: 978
    Best wishes.
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    Woo it's morning, and no news is good news! 

    Slept with my phone in my hand all night, massive cramp this morning heh

    Apparently she can still hear, so just trying to reassure her and talk about general goings on like we normally would 
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  • Best wishes from us. 
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  • Thinking of you, best wishes 
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    sigh

    Still living at the ICU really.  Going home to sleep and eat.  Work laptop with me today, although the wifi isn't great, things need to get done.

    Gran isn't getting worse, but hasn't woken up yet :(  She is also having a lot of seizures bless her.

    I think they are taking her ventilator out very soon to see how she manages on her own, that is the next biggest hurdle that I'm scared of.

    I think I've come to terms with the fact that the Gran I know and love might not come back, but I'm just hoping whatever happens next is peaceful


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  • SargeSarge Frets: 1504
    Hope she pulls through man,  thinking of you both.
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  • All the best,  hope she is as comfortable as possible. You are there for her which is what you need to do. 
    I feel the warm, healing, liquid presence of God’s genuine cold-filtered grace. 
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  • Best wishes man. 
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    Good news, Gran is out of ICU
    Still very poorly on the elderly ward but able to speak a bit and managing some humour.  She told us all last night that she loves us all, and she really means.  Scared the crap out of me, I thought it was final

    Shit news, the partners Gran also had a stroke last night, and died this afternoon.

    If people would stop dying.  That would be absolutely fucking great right now.  I've had enough 

    We lost our friend a couple months back, my Gran was/is so close and now hers.  I'm struggling with it all, as you can imagine, her being 28 weeks pregnant is making this a massive challenge.

    Probs signing off here for a bit, maybe some light phone use.

    I just want to protect my lady, my Son and my unborn.  We all need each other.

    Love this place, it makes me smile.
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    Well, I'm still half living at the hospital! Gran is her chatty self which is nice. Managing to walk with a frame. To be told she would never wake up about 4 weeks ago, the progress is amazing! 

    Currently sat alone having a coffee whilst she sleeps pondering life. 

    Just to keep up with the bad news, another friend died a few nights ago, he was hit by a car on Sat, and didn't make it this week. That'll be yet another funeral this year 

    Someone tell me, is this a bad year? Or does life do this to you when you are 26.

    Im starting to question everything in my life
    Sorry to be a downer 
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  • NiteflyNitefly Frets: 1690
    Kinnell, Joey, it never rains but what it pours, eh?  Real sorry to hear about your buddy.

    Good to hear your Gran is on the mend though - looks like you're the medicine she needs, best of luck to you all.
    Grown most uncommonly fat!
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  • mgawmgaw Frets: 2299
    sounds like an awful year mate...bet your Gran is loving you being around
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    Well I know a lot of people  can say this, but she was honestly the best gran I ever could have had. 

    I owe it to her to repay just a small amount of that favour! 


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  • mgawmgaw Frets: 2299
    she will appreciate every minute @joeyowen times precious sounds like you are doing a grand job there mate
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  • Death is a dick :(

    Make memories with your Gran now while you can. Looking back at memories of lost loved ones is all they leave behind.
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    I'm going to bump this from the past (feel free to skip, not a happy read).

    A long overdue update on my Gran, I just need to get my thoughts down in brief

    So 18  months ago I made this? Roughly?  Not sure!

    I remember my Gran finally being well enough to go home, and she told me she wanted to wait until (Lisa and mine) next baby was due, which was a few more months.  Lisa spent a lot of time getting bigger in hospital waiting rooms!  We then (laughably) were scared to take baby to meet gran, just in case that was all she wanted shall we say.  But we did.  And Me, Lisa, Toddler and Baby shared many happy times together over the last year.  Beautiful memories.  To think, from months in ICU to home!

    Her health got worse from week to week, then better for a bit, then worse again.  She spent a lot of time in hospital, having many little strokes.  Then she made it home, but chair bound.  Then into a home.  But she'd have good days for sure.  And we were visiting regularly.  You try telling an 85 yr old lady to stay sat down when a 3 year old is running about.  Fun times.

    Anyway, I fear (selfishly) that the day may be upon us.  We were all called to the hospital tonight.  She hasn't been right for a while.  She needs emergency surgery in the morning.  If she doesn't (and she may not be well enough), then that is that.  If she does there are massive massive risks, and they're not sure she'll make it.  To be honest, they aren't sure she'll make it through tonight.

    But i'm so proud of her.  Without even trying she managed to get from being declared about brain dead, to running round with a 3 year old.  She has her faith, and she believes my Grandad is waiting for her, she is at peace with all of this.

    It just isn't quality of life anymore. Social active people don't deserve to be medicated in a bed 247.

    All of this gave me the chance to sit and spend time with her as a person, not a grandparent.  Bless her she was so condescending even though i'm 27 ha.

    I left the hospital tonight, gave her a kiss, told her I loved her.  She went to sleep with a smile.  And just like that, I'm back to 18 months ago, checking my phone constantly.  Taking it hour by hour.  I honestly don't know the best outcome.
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  • PC_DavePC_Dave Frets: 759
    Thoughts are with you and your family mate. Hoping for the best outcome. We’re all here if you need owt.
    This week's procrastination forum might be moved to sometime next week.
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    Thanks man.

    She made it through the night.  Surgery is going ahead. It'll take a while. I'll sit and wait
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  • joeyowenjoeyowen Frets: 2698
    I'm still updating this for my own thoughts really

    So Weds night she was OK, made it through the night which was great.
    Thursday day she was supposed to go in first thing but the emergency theatre was busy most of the day which I supposed isn't a nice thing to think about...

    What was nice is that she has been off a lot of her medication for nearly 48 hours at this point, so she was much more coherent and we managed some small happy conversations.

    Last night she went into theatre at about 2245 and came out about 3 this morning.  She made it through that as well.  Bloody invincible this woman!  

    So now recovery again.  I'm starting to name her the Gran who cried wolf.  We have been told so many times now that we need to see her, and it isn't looking good.  But she just carrys on.  Important thing is, she isn't in any pain. Well, at least that is what she is telling us.

    I need more coffeeeee
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  • NiteflyNitefly Frets: 1690
    Supergran!

    Fingers crossed, and thoughts with you, matey.

    Grown most uncommonly fat!
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  • Phil_aka_PipPhil_aka_Pip Frets: 7097
    Best wishes!
    "Working" software has only unobserved bugs.
    Parroty Error: Pieces of Nine! Pieces of Nine!
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  • rocktronrocktron Frets: 401
    @joeyowen: On the bright side, you may have inherited some of her amazing powers of recovery.

    One thing I observed when my Mom (sadly deceased), was in hospital, is that the nurses do not have the time to help the elderly folk who are unable to feed themselves. The kitchen staff bring food for the patient, and if it is used, then fine. If not, it is cleared away and the elderly are left hungry and dehydrated. It is down to relatives to make sure that they have had something to eat and drink. The nurses in her ward  may be able to supply an energy drink, Ensure, if she is unable to eat.    

    It is a stressful time. . . . I know!!! 

    Best Wishes that your Gran recovers well.
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