After two years together, our singer has left (on good terms) and we have auditioned and offered the position to her replacement. The new singer is absolutely terrific with great feel and we're all confident that she can deliver. However there's an issue I have never encountered before and I wondered on your opinions.
The drummer, bass player and I are all middle aged (45-50). The drummer and bass player are a married couple and drive together with their gear in a completely full van and I drive separately and we meet at rehearsal/gigs. However, our new singer is just 19 years old and is a full time student in her first year. The problem isn't a generation gap, it's more that I have some significant concerns about her transport situation post-gig.
We're based in Manchester and a lot of the gigs are around the outside of the city. This isn't like London where the public transport is good. You really need to be able to drive to get to and from these places. As a young female, having to get back to the city centre from the outskirts of the city after midnight, I am going to worry about her.
I talked to my wife and said that I could drive her back to her university accomodation after gigs but my wife immediately said she'd rather I didn't. It's not that she's worried about me running off with the new singer. We've been married 23 years and I think we're past thinking that one of us might run off with someone else! It's more that having a young woman in the car, late at night, might open me to accusations that would cause me some major problems, should that ever happen. Again, I can't see it, but I suppose the potential is there for a life-ruining situation.
I'm more guilty of thinking like a dad than a bloke. My own kids are her age and also at university and I'd want my own daughter to be able to get home safely, but I also don't want to leave myself open to any situation that might cause me a problem. I've done Safeguarding courses when I was a junior rugby coach and I'm inclined to treat the situation in the same way (i.e. always have someone else in the car at the same time, never be alone with her etc).
Thoughts from you guys?