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Tex MexicoTex Mexico Frets: 1148
edited August 2 in Off Topic
My situation:
I'm as senior as it's possible to be before directorship in a quite new and fast-growing manufacturing company. I've been there two years and in that time I've been able to take advantage of that growth, getting promoted to my position and increasing my salary by about 40% of the starting (over that time the production turnover has more than quadrupled).

My professional background:
I have a first-class music production degree from 2004 which at this point is all but worthless. I have no other formal qualifications. I fell into what I'm doing through a coincidental predisposition to the field. Before my current job I spent seven years in a sort-of similar environment with lots of responsibility but shit money. My current employers took a punt on me because of this experience. Before my last position I had a series of lever-pulling IT/customer/service/debt recovery jobs, all awful call-centre stuff.

My problem:
I'm good at my job 90% of the time but I'm happy with it maybe 20% of the time. Some of my character traits, e.g. my attention to detail and how personally I take everything I do, are ideal for the position, but some of them, e.g. my social anxiety, my hypersensitivity and my tendency to procrastination, make it a lot more difficult. The environment is very masculine, aggressive and confrontational, as well as extremely profit-oriented, which is a mask I can wear but I don't like myself when I do it. Additionally I'm hypertensive as a result of an aortic dissection a few years ago, I have IBS from leukemia twenty years ago, I have generalised PTSD, and I have a history of substance abuse (I'm currently dry). This year I will turn 40. My cardiologist has told me that if I would like to see 50 I should take it easy.

My current routine is barely tolerable. I basically work from Sunday evening (reviewing Monday's urgent tasks) through to late Friday night, and during that time if I'm not actively working (which is from before eight a.m. until well after six p.m., no breaks, no lunch hour) I'm worried about work: things I know have gone or will go wrong, things I need to do to prevent others from going wrong. I've lately started to lose sleep over it. I did not stop working during lockdown. I worked from home for maybe three weeks. During Covid our output went up 30%

Just recently one of the directors, who let's say doesn't have much time for diplomacy, gave me such a hard chewing-out for a situation I hadn't caused and was powerless to improve that I seriously considered walking out, and I ultimately contacted the MD to explain what had happened and to point out that I wouldn't put up with being treated like that. The MD did address it and the director has since been noticeably nicer to me, but it will almost certainly happen again before long, and next time I'm honestly not sure I won't just quit on the spot.

It's not a bad company to work for. There are many upsides, and not just their willingness to take a risk on promoting me and reward me for it. They are largely decent people and I'm not being exploited. I haven't been bullied into the situation I'm in; I've taken every opportunity I was offered without knowing if I'd be able to handle it, and it seems objectively that I've bitten off more than I can chew. For long, anyway.

My options:
I've never liked working. I never aimed to have anything like a career (dreams of being a rock star notwithstanding). However I'm not in a financial situation where I can just not work. My wife makes good money and we don't have kids but the commensurate reduction in our quality of life would in any case be completely unfair on her, and I'm not even sure if it's actually manageable. We've discussed it and if I were to stop working now I could afford to be unemployed for about six months, absolute tops. This would, however, be a waste of our savings.

I've considered asking for a three-day week, as that's a pay-cut I can take and still be on more money than I was making when I left my previous full-time job. However I don't know if that's even a possibility, given the hours my current role requires me to work. To be fair I'm sure the request would be considered seriously, especially if I were to put it on health grounds (which I think is fair), but I'm also concerned that the pressure this would put on the company would cost me a lot of good will (it would also harm my future career prospects but to be completely honest I think I'm about as senior in this field as I ever want to be).

I'm also going to explore my other professional options. The problem is I don't have any qualifications, and whereas two years in my currently role is not to be sniffed at (I was headhunted a year ago by another business who threw money at me, which I ended up not going for) my concern is that a similar role on equivalent pay would be every bit as stressful, with the added stress of changing jobs, and any role on less pay is is no way guaranteed to come with less stress. I've had jobs on 1/3 of my current wage and they were horrible.

I've also considered retraining, but firstly I don't have the time to do that on top of my currently job, and secondly I'm not even sure what I'd retrain as. My only vocations are creative.

I'm sure a few of your guys have been in similar situations and I hope you might have some good advice for me.

To others I'm sure this must look like first world problems, especially at the moment when so many have been laid off or have jobs at risk. I'm really sorry if that's the case. I'm just trying to find the best outcome.


TL;DR: My senior, well-paid job is really stressful and it's making me sicker than I already am, what should I do?
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  • phil_bphil_b Frets: 1050
    edited August 2
    My situation:

     My cardiologist has told me that if I would like to see 50 I should take it easy.



    set your self up to live on a smaller income and quit this job as soon as you can

    your heath is something you can not buy back
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  • sgosdensgosden Frets: 1438
    Although the money situation is different...

    The wife quit a long hours stressfull job, for health reasons. 
    She now works for minimum wage and the quality of life Vs money doesn't even factor for her now. 

    Never underestimate how much a shit job fucks up your personal life, physical and mental health. 

    You've got one life. Why spend it being miserable ?!
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  • tony99tony99 Frets: 4246
    take a year out and go be a teaching assistant in spain, china or wherever, do it through british council, you've got a degree so no probs there

    you'll get a new perspective on everything trust me
    Bollocks you don't know Bono !!
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  • Tex MexicoTex Mexico Frets: 1148
    tony99 said:
    take a year out and go be a teaching assistant in spain, china or wherever, do it through british council, you've got a degree so no probs there

    you'll get a new perspective on everything trust me
    I have previously lived for thirteen years in France and I'm fairly well-travelled, so not lacking perspective on that front, plus I have a wife and pets and a house and so on. It's tempting - about ten years ago when I split with my ex I considered moving back to France where my dad lives and having a fresh start. Obviously I'm glad I met my wife and all that but in hindsight it might not have been such a terrible idea.

    I come from a family of teachers to the extent that at one point I just assumed I'd do a PGCE after my bachelor, but I've discovered through guitar tutoring that I'm not cut out for teaching.
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  • Tex MexicoTex Mexico Frets: 1148
    sgosden said:
    Although the money situation is different...

    The wife quit a long hours stressfull job, for health reasons. 
    She now works for minimum wage and the quality of life Vs money doesn't even factor for her now. 

    Never underestimate how much a shit job fucks up your personal life, physical and mental health. 

    You've got one life. Why spend it being miserable ?!
    I 100% agree. It's making me miserable and I don't want to be miserable. I'm sat here making a mental list of the people I need to ask permission from before I even consider downgrading my job in favour of my health and happiness. I mean, is that weird?

    If you don't mind me asking, what kind of job does your wife do? My concern over actively going for a low-stakes, low-pay job is that in my experience they've not been that much less stressful or demanding. If anything I was treated far worse by the people who paid me ten grand than by the people who pay me four times that.
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  • tony99tony99 Frets: 4246
    edited August 2
    tony99 said:
    take a year out and go be a teaching assistant in spain, china or wherever, do it through british council, you've got a degree so no probs there

    you'll get a new perspective on everything trust me
    I have previously lived for thirteen years in France and I'm fairly well-travelled, so not lacking perspective on that front, plus I have a wife and pets and a house and so on. It's tempting - about ten years ago when I split with my ex I considered moving back to France where my dad lives and having a fresh start. Obviously I'm glad I met my wife and all that but in hindsight it might not have been such a terrible idea.

    I come from a family of teachers to the extent that at one point I just assumed I'd do a PGCE after my bachelor, but I've discovered through guitar tutoring that I'm not cut out for teaching.
    ok mate, didn't mean it so much from a travelling perspective, nor a teaching one, just a kind of "lessen your responsibility and understand other's problems" type thing, you know, teenagers and stuff


    you'll do OK I'm sure, when you ask for advice it usually means you know what's what, good luck man
    Bollocks you don't know Bono !!
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  • mgawmgaw Frets: 3832
    be healthy in body and soul   the end
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  • Tex MexicoTex Mexico Frets: 1148
    tony99 said:
    ok mate, didn't mean it so much from a travelling perspective, nor a teaching one, just a kind of "lessen your responsibility and understand other's problems" type thing, you know, teenagers and stuff



    you'll do OK I'm sure, when you ask for advice it usually means you know what's what, good luck man
    Thanks, and I do get what you mean. I do have a lot of respect and admiration for people who set out to redefine their own perspectives through working with others. I think part of my problem is I'm not a naturally gregarious or assertive person and over the past two years my job has required me to be those things, which has massively contributed to my stress levels.

    I know the whole introvert/extrovert thing is largely clickbait, but the underlying truth is that I am far closer to the quiet, solitary homebody end of the spectrum. The reason I mentioned a three-day week above as a realistic consideration is that I've heard the intro/extrovert dichotomy described as "people who are drained by social contact" vs. "people who are fuelled by social contact". Obviously introverts need people and extroverts need solitude, which implies there is a balance to be found. My suspicion is that if I could reduce my exposure time by 2/5 and double my recovery time, my stress levels would become wholly manageable.

    That may also be a load of rubbish, of course.
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  • mgawmgaw Frets: 3832
    be careful of seeking isolation though,
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  • CrankyCranky Frets: 31
    phil_b said:

    set your self up to live on a smaller income and quit this job as soon as you can

    your heath is something you can not buy back
    This, mate.

    Perhaps you could try a "statement" route by bringing in an "illegal immigrant" and train him/her to do your job for a fraction of the cost, you keeping the change of course.
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  • the_butlerthe_butler Frets: 106
    Speak to your boss tell him/her your concerns particularly regarding your health & your cardiologists advice & see if he/she is accommodating, if you're valued this shouldn't be a problem
    Try to set your financial outgoings so you can take a drop in pay if it doesn't improve, you lived on less before you can do it again.
    You laid out that you're working 50+ hours a week & also taking work home that's hard enough when you're 100% invested in your work if you don't even enjoy it it's a recipe for disaster.
    Think about what you want to do for the next 25 years, if you can get a 3 day week then use the other 2 to do an OU or part time college course
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  • Tex MexicoTex Mexico Frets: 1148
    Speak to your boss tell him/her your concerns particularly regarding your health & your cardiologists advice & see if he/she is accommodating, if you're valued this shouldn't be a problem
    Try to set your financial outgoings so you can take a drop in pay if it doesn't improve, you lived on less before you can do it again.
    You laid out that you're working 50+ hours a week & also taking work home that's hard enough when you're 100% invested in your work if you don't even enjoy it it's a recipe for disaster.
    Think about what you want to do for the next 25 years, if you can get a 3 day week then use the other 2 to do an OU or part time college course
    What I really want is to be a novelist. Obviously though that's a sizeable gamble as compared to e.g. reskilling in another field.

    Currently my weekend is about a day and a half, which is taken up with the usual laundry and house maintenance, plus wedging in what small social life I've managed to retain. I can't write during the week. I can't focus on it. My rationale though is that four days off a week would enable me to actually write, and the other three would earn enough pro-rata to cover the bills.

    I'm going to discuss it with my wife, as she obviously has a say in this. I honestly don't know how my MD would respond. I know they'd rather not lose me, but whether that extends to the kind of reshuffle that would be necessary is another matter.
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  • monquixotemonquixote Frets: 11062
    What made you think the other job you were offered would have been just as stressful?

    Could you find a similar job at a company that offered better work life balance?
    Handsome_Chris said: Like white Nile Rodgers. 
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  • RiftAmpsRiftAmps Frets: 1966
    edited August 2 tFB Trader
    I've never understood why people put themselves through so much stress/bullshit/working for arseholes to earn a living. You don't have to sell your health to keep a roof over your head.

    mgaw said:
    be healthy in body and soul   the end
    +1000 on this.
    *I no longer offer replacement speaker baffles*
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  • thumpingrugthumpingrug Frets: 1851
    Its just a job man.  Though this one appears to be killing you.  Get out as soon as you can and do something else for a while.



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  • DiscoStuDiscoStu Frets: 3706
    edited August 2
    My brother in law was a bank manager for 30 years, and covering more than one branch. He got redundancy a couple of years back and now drives a fish van 3 days a week. He's never been happier.

    Lockdown has been a great eye-opener for many people. I was off for 12 weeks on the 80% furlough pay but being at home all the time meant I wasn't spending money and I've actually come out of it financially better than if I had been getting full wages every month.
    I started back a fortnight ago but only doing 2 days. This week it goes up to 3, then in two weeks it'll be 4, then full time come September. I'm seriously considering asking about going part time and sticking at 3 days a week.

    There was a recent change to employment law that says that every employer must consider an employee's request for a change to their work hours, whether that's for health reasons, family commitments or whatever. If you want to work less hours then your employers must look at your request. It sounds to me like less hours might be a good solution for you.
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  • tony99tony99 Frets: 4246
    My degree is language based, I deliberately avoided doing anything to do with music because it's more my passion and I didn't want to get all theoretical / analytical about something I felt was more my spiritual side.

    Guess I kinda fucked up though because I would like to get into music therapy now and to do that you really need a music based degree haha.
    Bollocks you don't know Bono !!
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  • UnclePsychosisUnclePsychosis Frets: 7881
    edited August 2
    sgosden said:
    Although the money situation is different...

    The wife quit a long hours stressfull job, for health reasons. 
    She now works for minimum wage and the quality of life Vs money doesn't even factor for her now. 

    Never underestimate how much a shit job fucks up your personal life, physical and mental health. 

    You've got one life. Why spend it being miserable ?!
    I 100% agree. It's making me miserable and I don't want to be miserable. I'm sat here making a mental list of the people I need to ask permission from before I even consider downgrading my job in favour of my health and happiness. I mean, is that weird?

    If you don't mind me asking, what kind of job does your wife do? My concern over actively going for a low-stakes, low-pay job is that in my experience they've not been that much less stressful or demanding. If anything I was treated far worse by the people who paid me ten grand than by the people who pay me four times that.
    Are you really working a 50+ hour week, chock-full of stress, in return for £40k? 

    i know its incredibly easy to say but your employer is taking the piss and you're letting them. If you're going to stay then you need to have a genuine conversation with them---"My doctor has advised that I can't keep doing this, you need to get me some help to take the workload off me" and then you have to learn to delegate (reading your description of your worries makes me think that you have a hard time letting go of work). 

    If that doesn't work, you need to get out before they carry you out. 

    Good luck. 
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  • phil_bphil_b Frets: 1050
    Are you really working a 50+ hour week in return for £40k? 


    I regularly work 50 hour weeks. last year I earned 23k. I dont have enough energy at the end of the day to start job hunting. I wish I had the guts just to walk away

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  • UnclePsychosisUnclePsychosis Frets: 7881
    phil_b said:
    Are you really working a 50+ hour week in return for £40k? 


    I regularly work 50 hour weeks. last year I earned 23k. I dont have enough energy at the end of the day to start job hunting. I wish I had the guts just to walk away

    But is your job a "directorship" where you feel a level of responsibility that makes you feel ill? 

    Plenty of people work 50 hour weeks. But those jobs tend to be either well-renumerated or (relatively) low-stress. 
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  • prowlaprowla Frets: 3047
    Most jobs I've had I've left before I've had another to go to.

    However, in the current climate it'd be a brave thing to do to venture out into uncharted territory.
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  • tony99tony99 Frets: 4246
    Also, if you want to be a novelist, are you doing any writing at the minute? If so then fair enough chase that dream.

    But if you're not doing any novelling right now, and you think it's just because you don't have the time to do so it might actually be because you're not that passionate about writing, just a thought. Are you filling up every spare moment of the day with writing up new ideas and literary creations? If so, then  you're a novelist.

    But if you're thinking "I'd like to stop working my current stressful 9-5 and spend all that time on coming up with a great novel", then, I don't think that's gonna work.


    Bollocks you don't know Bono !!
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  • monquixotemonquixote Frets: 11062
    I know someone who has been working on a novel for a couple of years. 

    He recently went part time in his job to have more focus on it, but has actually got writers block because it's become a job rather than a hobby.
    Handsome_Chris said: Like white Nile Rodgers. 
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  • KarlosKarlos Frets: 460
    edited August 3
    I read your whole post and after it one word flashed large in my mind “cardiologist”.

    Is your heart solely compromised because of a previous condition or is it partly self inflicted (shit phrase but you get my drift) you mentioned substance abuse. Stress causes many people to relapse simply because they feel the need to self medicate. It’s great that your dry now but do you fear relapse?

    The effects of stress, over the long term are insidious.

    It took me 5 years to address my stress and anxiety and by that point the damage to my mental health was huge and I’ve had a long road back to where I’m at now.

    It sounds like you’ve had a pretty rough time with your health over the years. I know it’s easy to say but your health comes first, mental and physical.

    I can’t give careers advice, I’ve never had an interview and I wouldn’t know one end of CV if it bit me on the end of my nose but I know all about letting stress affect your health and as you creep up to 50, trust me, the physical and mental effects of stress get magnified by a factor of a million.

    Don’t let your job fuck with your health because when your lead in a bed in the Emergency Decisions Unit at 3am with your wife taking notes because you’re “getting your affairs in order” as I was, those big pay packets will seem pretty unimportant.

    Take_it_easy_man.
    (the artist formerly known as KarlosSantos)
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  • phil_bphil_b Frets: 1050
    phil_b said:
    Are you really working a 50+ hour week in return for £40k? 


    I regularly work 50 hour weeks. last year I earned 23k. I dont have enough energy at the end of the day to start job hunting. I wish I had the guts just to walk away

    But is your job a "directorship" where you feel a level of responsibility that makes you feel ill? 

    Plenty of people work 50 hour weeks. But those jobs tend to be either well-renumerated or (relatively) low-stress. 

    no Im not a director but  it is high stress.

    sometimes before work I am physically sick. some days i am in tears and some days I have fits of rage. each day I dont know how many hours I will need to work or how much I will get paid. i am paid per job and it often works out the more hours i do (because the jobs has taken longer than expected) the less I am paid.in the last 18 months since I started my blood pressure has risen to dangerous levels and I have gained two stone in weight. My wife now sleeps in the room  with my son as not to disturb me t night as I now have problems sleeping. yes I have been stressed and Im struggling but I also feel trapped. previous to starting this job I was in the Army. I can honestly say the job I have now is more stressful than a tour of duty in Iraq where we got attacked on a daily basis
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  • Tex MexicoTex Mexico Frets: 1148
    sgosden said:
    Although the money situation is different...

    The wife quit a long hours stressfull job, for health reasons. 
    She now works for minimum wage and the quality of life Vs money doesn't even factor for her now. 

    Never underestimate how much a shit job fucks up your personal life, physical and mental health. 

    You've got one life. Why spend it being miserable ?!
    I 100% agree. It's making me miserable and I don't want to be miserable. I'm sat here making a mental list of the people I need to ask permission from before I even consider downgrading my job in favour of my health and happiness. I mean, is that weird?

    If you don't mind me asking, what kind of job does your wife do? My concern over actively going for a low-stakes, low-pay job is that in my experience they've not been that much less stressful or demanding. If anything I was treated far worse by the people who paid me ten grand than by the people who pay me four times that.
    Are you really working a 50+ hour week, chock-full of stress, in return for £40k? 

    i know its incredibly easy to say but your employer is taking the piss and you're letting them. If you're going to stay then you need to have a genuine conversation with them---"My doctor has advised that I can't keep doing this, you need to get me some help to take the workload off me" and then you have to learn to delegate (reading your description of your worries makes me think that you have a hard time letting go of work). 

    If that doesn't work, you need to get out before they carry you out. 

    Good luck. 
    Thanks!

    Yes, basically.

    I do live in the barren north though, where houses cost £5k and a packet of crisps.

    I know it's not a fortune but it's more money than I ever expected to make, and I've spent most of my working life on half that, so that's my perspective on it. I don't really feel like my bosses are taking the piss. Around here that's about standard salary for any equivalent job.

    I take your point about getting help, but that's already happened and what I've learnt is that when you delegate the work doesn't disappear - if anything the time you spent doing that work yourself is taken up managing those who are now doing it. And if they do it badly - let's just say I recently had to let an employee go for a number of reasons, one of which was that his productivity was close to nil. It was added stress having him on and even more stress making the decision to end his employment. My team are currently good people but my observation on that is I still feel their work is my responsibility and their failures are my failures.
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  • Tex MexicoTex Mexico Frets: 1148
    tony99 said:
    Also, if you want to be a novelist, are you doing any writing at the minute? If so then fair enough chase that dream.

    But if you're not doing any novelling right now, and you think it's just because you don't have the time to do so it might actually be because you're not that passionate about writing, just a thought. Are you filling up every spare moment of the day with writing up new ideas and literary creations? If so, then  you're a novelist.

    But if you're thinking "I'd like to stop working my current stressful 9-5 and spend all that time on coming up with a great novel", then, I don't think that's gonna work.


    I've been writing in some form or another for about twenty years (fifteen of which were spent getting anything like good at it). It is something I do constantly but the pace as you can imagine is glacial because it requires chunks of hours at a time to get into any kind of rhythm or zone, time which I don't have. The writing I'm currently doing is done in half-hours here and there and for example I've managed about 5,000 words over the last two weeks, which while not terrible is nothing like the 20,000 I managed last time I had four days off.

    I'm absolutely passionate about writing, and more than that I do want to do it for a living. It's my ideal career.
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  • UnclePsychosisUnclePsychosis Frets: 7881
    @phil_b you need to get out, dude. You could work 50 hours a week in a minimum wage job and it wouldn't be much of a pay cut. I know you say you're too tired, but you need to book a week off and spend it looking at alternatives. Good luck. 
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  • vizviz Frets: 6499
    Would 3 days a week really work for you? From what you say I’m not sure they sound like they would respect it, and you sound like the sort of chap would end up doing 5 anyway. Even without that consideration, the question is, would you choose doing 3 days there against doing 5 days somewhere new with a bit less pressure, for the same overall weekly wage?
    Misogyny ... enforces sexism by punishing those who reject an inferior status for women and rewarding those who accept it. - Guitartango
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