Like many parents, I'm sure, we're confronted by a dilemma. I can handle it, but I like to think I'm not being pig-ignorant to true sense, or so arrogant that I can't change my opinion on the subject.
So, I believe that parents should use their own intelligent judgement to decide on how best to raise their children. When it comes to games (e.g. GTA V) I have very little idea about the actual content other than what I've read and heard. So, I trust the ratings board that it really is best left to over 18s because the content isn't appropriate for less mature minds.
Now, I accept that some kids are more mature and that the ratings step up from 15 (or 16) to 18 which doesn't allow for graduations in between, so I conclude that as a parent I could decide that my child is mature enough to play it when he is younger than 18.
I think it's perfectly valid to consider the "harm" that my son might be suffering as an outcast amongst his peers. He has told us that he gets laughed at because we won't let him play. I don't want to give in to that but I'm not so stubborn that I will refuse to give in just to show them. Maybe it's not such a big deal that I want to see him ridiculed over it. But in this case, I think it is a big deal and he has to respect that. I actually think it shows why his peers aren't mature that they ridicule him about decisions that he doesn't even control.
For what it's worth, the ridiculing isn't that bad and he's a smart kid who can handle it to a degree.
So, I just want to make sure that I'm considering all the factors. Is there some fundamental bit of sense that I've overlooked? Has anyone else in this situation had a moment of clarity and thought "y'know what, my kid is ready for this"?
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"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein
My old boss did once comment that "every ad break theres at least one for video games". So kids are seeing ads every 15ish minutes, so thats kinda ingrained that they'd want that game.
I've seen ads on daytime tele for 18 rated games, surely if they were aimed at adults the ads would be on later, after the watershed.
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"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein
Much of it depends on how sensitive the parents are. If Mummy and Daddy are freaking over the spooky ghost then a young child will probably freak twice as much.
18 is a bit of a dumb rating, though. How many people will realistically stop a 17 year old from playing GTA or watching some slasher movie because they are too young? As the OP says, there would be considerably more damage done by peer ridicule than by actual game content.
Now my neighbours had three sons and they were very sheltered in that sense. When I was about 12 I had Robocop on video and took it round for us all to watch and their mum clocked it and said 'no way, you're not watching that' and took it off me. Fast forward a couple of years and we're watching a school football match. One of the strikers went for goal and the keeper went in too rough and the striker's leg broke at the knee - actually snapped backwards iirc. The guy next to me - one of the sheltered neighbour kids - fainted dead away.
My daughter's 8 so her tastes are pretty childish still, but I've impressed upon her from an early age that nothing she sees on telly is really real. Even the news is edited to create a particular emotion. I shown her youtube videos of people doing their own horror make up to try and dispel anything she might inadvertantly see. When you see somebody applying latex to their face and colouring it with fake blood it removes the scariness, so you can appreciate at the end how clever it is rather than be fooled and frightened.
I find Eastenders far more grotesque and damaging to be honest.
Here's my thoughts on that: as an adult, we can distinguish between real world and virtual world, then decide to not be too upset by stuff in the virtual world. Of course, we can tell our kids that games and films aren't real, but that doesn't show them what is real. Personally, I think it takes a level of maturity to be able to control your reaction to horrific events depending on whether they are real world or virtual. My fear is that we teach kids to deal with the virtual horrors at a young age so we can feel good about letting them play games that are above their age group, all the while not realising that we've just created the new problem.
My kids think dropping a nuke on North Korea would solve that particular problem. Same goes for Syria.
They find the news sensational sometimes but they don't show the emotion that a mature person would when presented with evidence of chemical attacks on innocent people. When they do that, I think I'll be happy to let them play older rated games.
Am I making sense? I appreciate it seems like a strict approach, but I'm trying to use intelligent logic rather just a gut feeling.
I’m so bored I might as well be listening to Pink Floyd
I think I agree about monsters/mummies/aliens being different. My kids are old enough to know that those aren't real and can't be either.
I’m so bored I might as well be listening to Pink Floyd
My son is 12, and after vetting I've let him play Gears of War, Halo, Assassins Creed and other things. So far he hasn't tried to assasinate someone or believed aliens are going to erupt from the ground. He has watched films rated much older and remains a sensible kid who is fully aware of whats right/wrong or /real fantasy.
"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein
"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein