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Like the book, your relationship with this woman isn't going to get any better...
My ex hated me playing guitar so for years I didn't, hated me cycling so I didn't, pretty much hated me doing anything and then she accused me of being useless lazy and having no interests !!!
I moved out and lived on my own there were points when it was a bit yuk - but it was worth it I read a lot and listened to lots of music when on my own - YOU CAN DO IT
If loneliness is an issue then YOU need to make the effort to get out there. Sign up for an evening class, go to the gym, join the local choral society, AmDram, jam night or whatever it is that floats your boat. You will meet other people (perhaps develop new interests) and perhaps make new friends that you will socialise with outside of these activities. Who knows, you might even meet the woman of your dreams.
I’m someone who is actually okay with my own company, but nonetheless I attend a local 12 bar workshop, and a community choir - my singing is poor (no, worse than that) but choir is generally an excuse to go to the pub afterwards so there’s quite a bit of socialising.
But whatever else you do or don’t do, you need to get out of what you yourself have admitted is a toxic relationship.
Best of luck.
- The consensus advice was not really what the OP was hoping for.
- It was what he hoped for but he just couldn't summon the will power.
- He went back again (and again, and....)
- He told her what everyone here said and she killed him. (RIP).
EDIT: After update from mark123 it looks like the last page could have a happy ending. Fingers crossedI've posted on this very forum, nearly a year ago, about my breakup of 9year long relationship. It wasn't even half as bad as yours, but I still cannot be thankful enough for it to happen. Listen to the advice on here - plenty of wisdom there and trust me - so many blokes have gone and are going through it - and many more will.
Leave. Close this chapter. Open a new one. You will be surprised what you will find. It's all big words which may scare you: "the search for your inner self" etc - just bloody do it - it takes courage but will pay off double!
Have strength and do it!
Thanks to everyone
i do come back on and read this thread again and again ,
the sucess stories of leaving and finding a much better partner have stopped me a few times from ringing her and trying to get back
Ive had voicemals off her this week (cant find a call blocker that blocks everything??)they have ranged from crying and saying why do i hate her so much? to i am useless a liar and i need to see a shrink !
Many thanks to all, i am doing what you have all said ,playing guitar more, got on top of my house, looks tidy again! looking to join a gym this weekend .
I will keep you all updated but but not every day
thanks to you all !
as i said in pm it DOES get easier mate
Seriously: If you value it, take/fetch it yourself
Offset "(Emp) - a little heavy on the hyperbole."