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JASON.
”if she gets fat when she’s older, will she change her name to obcd”
Poor kid
The school in question only has a couple of local farm kids who are heavily outnumbered by Cloud, Starshine, Peace and their ilk, so nobody gets their dinner money beaten out of them or their bag thrown in the river until high school.
It's a tricky subject, shaming a five year old is unforgivable, but the parents need a slap.
Then again, my two are called Sia and Beau, so I can’t really judge others on what names they choose I suppose.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/football/46398667
Nobody is "raising" a bully, it's just inevitable with a bunch of barely supervised nine year olds who all look and sound alike when one of them definitely doesn't.
My name is Julian, I grew up in South Wales in the 60s and 70s and went to a comprehensive school where some of the teachers were escorted in and out by the police for their own safety.
Luckily I was big, but had to be way more aggressive than I was naturally inclined to be just because of my stupid girly name.
Every new class or new school (we were in the RAF and travelled a lot) meant that I had to put some fucker on his arse in the first couple of weeks just for a quiet life. I have no idea WTF my seriously working class parents were thinking or where they got the name from but the song A Boy Named Sue really resonated with me.
I stand by my earlier assertion, the parents need a fucking slap.
My kids are the only non swiss kids in their school. They have french names and are obviously different by language. We live in a rural farming village and my kids are easily outsiders.
Bullying isn't an issue, at all. In fact parents encourage their kids to befriend ours as they know it'll give their kids a reason to learn English.
To be fair, this topic was one of the reasons I wanted to leave england. Too many schools just have no control and parents don't give a shit and don't support teachers to disciplin (I was a teacher before leaving).
Things certainly have changed for the better in my lifetime, but as someone who suffered from bullying from older kids it's always been something I detest.
BUT, my sincere and deep empathy for anyone who is bullied comes more from a realisation that I also perpetrated it.
I can remember as a 12 year old flattening a kid in a perfectly legitimate football tackle, but in an unnecessary way I could've pulled out of and didn't.
He wasn't very big or one of the 'cool kids', and half an hour later he deliberately piled into me, knocking me over, but with a look of genuine fear at what my reaction would be.
It dawned on me instantly that he'd been dwelling on what I'd done and been quietly seething about it, and was almost tearful as he got his revenge.
Given who he was and who I was in terms of social standing in that horrible school status battle, it took some bravery to attack me and I instantly felt a deep shame about it which has stuck with me for decades.
I'm not an animal, in fact in my many years service as a union rep I've spent decades defending people against adversaries who are holding most of the aces, but I still think parents need to try and remember the cut and thrust of trying to keep your head above water in the social melee of a primary school.
Parents who want to prove their individuality should think very carefully about trying to do it through their kids IMO, young children LIKE to feel they belong in general, and should be given a chance to do so unless they choose otherwise, without feeling excluded by a silly whim of their parents.
I give my cats silly names, they seem cool with it, but my kids? Give 'em a chance to forge their own rebellion, without having to win a stupid battle against mine before they even start.
But, I wouldn't say it was just the farm kids. I found on the whole the farmer sons to have a sense of fairness or decency bred into them to not let things get to far. The worst bullies were boys from broken families or poverty striken circumstances.
Anyway back to the subject, my name is Geraint. I've had periods in my life where I was ashamed of it due to negative reactions to it, but hey by now I love having a very Welsh name. Us Welsh are long used to people getting our names wrong or being ridiculed. You just explain politely how it is pronounced, shrug at their ignorance and get on with it, and not go winging to the press. It's been this way for hundreds of years!
But cats don't have to meet strange people and tell them their name...
Being bullied at school , and a child being bullied by a fully grown adult who uses their official status to do so is hardly the same thing, so while a child bullies another child you take it to their parents in the hope that they are decent enough to deal with their childs behaviour but when an adult does it you take it everywhere you can. People abusing children really gets my goat up.