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ie ;You want to provide as much as possible for them
Guess my dream job would be editing videos, playing guitar and not having to talk much, all whilst earning enough to pay off the mortgage, put the kids through uni and go on decent holidays.
Dream on......
I'm also getting into filming (corporate stuff, I'm not making feature films or anything)- I'm on my first independent video shoot in India in 3 weeks which will be exciting.
I don't have kids though.
Studio: https://www.voltperoctave.com
Music: https://www.euclideancircuits.com
Me: https://www.jamesrichmond.com
OK. In the interests of balance
"I turn up, I do ------- (fill in the blank), I go home."
I do know someone who went from being a coroner to being an Ocado driver and he couldn't be happier. But the nice house was paid for by being a coroner, the driving job just keeps him in quinoa.
I work in IT, and for the past 12/18 months, my "day job" has been looking after my career (learning new skills, and remembering what it is like to enjoy IT), as part of a roadmap to ensure that I can take the positions that I want, rather than where my career was heading (more management and end-user compute, which I didn't want really). The office job has become just a "side gig" to pay my bills, and give me the chance to try different things. I was still professional and committed (designing a deployment of SCCM, O365, and Windows 10 to over 10k clients at over 300 sites), but it was no longer my #1 priority, I was. My ambition is to get back to "sexy" cloud stuff. To be honest, I expect to be earing more again in a few years than I was last year, but if I stay at the new job, that is fine too.
If you can afford it, go for it. In terms of being able to afford it, you can almost certainly live on less than you think!
Essentially that statement is why I was crap at management, way too much of a control freak and didn’t like delegating to people I felt were less competent and less likely to deliver – unfortunately in most cases I was right, which only increased the stress levels.
Thinking about it I quickly decided life was too short for that shite
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Reassessing what you spend your money on isn't really an issue when you don't really have much - if any spare money ..... luckily the things I enjoy the most don't cost any money ..... thinks like playing guitar and keys, sitting on the beach, cooking, the countryside, inventing little gadgets. My love of the pub is subsidised by gig'ing so that's not a problem. I do like travelling and that has to be saved up for but because we can travel off peak and out of season it's kind of cheaper anyway. Being self employed I can earn more money if need be but if there's no pressing urgency to do so and it's a sunny day I prefer to be sitting in the pool or on the beach with a cold beer.
Being self employed doing anything and a decent enough musician is generally a good mix because if normal work gets tight you can take more gigs and vice versa. Then there's always other revenue streams like teaching, creating and selling backing tracks, mixing live sound, recording, audio installations. I've got a lot of fingers in a lot of pies which is kind of reassuring in as much as I don't rely on any one thing to put food on the table. I also love the fact there's variety .... doing the same thing day in and day out would do my head in.
This is the phrase that keeps coming to mind recently. I spend a lot of my time doing long hours, with quite poorly people and witnessing some tragic circumstances - whilst having spectacularly failed to heed the lessons learned and adjust my own work/life balance, to the detriment of my wife and kids.
Im 41 now and have taken the decision to try to drop a day of clinical work, replacing it with some non clinical stuff that won’t be as well paid, but should provide a bit of a breather as well as continue to contribute to our local health services. I’ve been reflecting why I’ve taken so long to get to this decision and I think it’s because it’s so counter intuitive to what was my younger self. 20s and 30s felt like they were dominated by trying to get some money to afford a home, then provide for my kids and wife. So to consciously decide to earn less felt like a crazy decision.
I think it’s taken a growing sense of confidence in my own decision making to properly believe that what my family need from me is time, support and love more than cash! The most fun memories of recent years have never involved posh holidays or expensive meals. They’ve been impromptu football games in the park, hand made birthday cards from the wife, random trips out and seeing my kids grow and develop into people I am so proud of.
If you’ve got a strong inner voice suggesting you need a change, don’t ignore it. It may need some planning and thought, but it means something, and needs to be listened to.
cheers
So you're obviously not valued, obviously not making decisions, and are just running around pretending to be something you're not because the business has told you that you're a round peg when you're actually a square one. And the hole is round of course.
The previous job involved me being at work 5-6 days per week (occasionally 7) and working from home on the laptop doing spreadsheets and whatnot every single evening. I was also expected to be available on my phone at any time of day should a member of staff need me or some kind of crisis arise.
I now work either 3 or 4 days per week (37.5hrs per week, either in 9.5hr or 12.5hr shifts) and spend the rest of the time doing whatever the hell I want. Never touching an excel spreadsheet or work email outside of work, never speaking to any colleagues outside of work (aside from non-work-related social banter).
I get less money per month but just cut cloth accordingly. I haven't regretted my decision for the even the smallest fraction of a second. Life's too precious to spend your life wasting away in a job you hate.