Hey guys,
Just in need of some advice from those of you who may have been in similar situations.
I'm currently in a 3 piece originals band (6 months in). Musically it is going really well. The three of us get on great and have a laugh.
However I am definitely a lot closer with the bassist, the drummer is very much his own person and outside of band practice I don't really see him, we exchange the odd text during the week but that's about it. Like I said, when we are together playing it is great and we have a laugh, we click fantastically musically as well.
The drummer has his own life outside of the band, his own circle of friends and social life which I obviously have no problem with, On the other hand I am on the introverted side and do tend to enjoy my own company. We go out for beers once in a while though.
I guess I'm pessimistic by nature and tend to always worry about the pointless things. In your opinion, do bandmates need to be "best friends"?
Does a successful originals band need each member to be close and always talking/in touch? I guess naturally I tend to look at the bands I admire and I see that they appear to always be with each other, even outside of a musical situation. But then it's no secret that even the greatest bands on earth have their difficulties.
Sorry if this seems a bit aimless, but thank you for reading.
Tldr: Do band mates need to be with each other a lot (outside of musical situations) for things to work out in the long run?
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One thing that I do miss about being in an 'original-originals' band (the one I'm with at the minute is a blues bands, so about half-and-half originals and covers which we tend to put a spin on) is the gang mentality, that kind of 'us against the world' thing where we'd go out for beers and play pool or whatever together and it was obvious to anyone with eyes that we were a band. The 'got your back, bro' kinda feel was there in most of the bands I've been in, but I guess age plays a part as well (maybe you just grow out of that ).
Not saying that you NEED that to be a successful band, but it is a pleasant by-product of being in one sometimes.