Are you the kind who keeps in touch with mates from the past or do you naturally move on and see friendships as more dynamic things? I've been thinking about an old mate of mine who will be 50 in a few weeks so I looked him up on Facebook and his friend list is like a directory of our old gang from thirty years ago - as are theirs - like they're stuck in the past. I don't want to cling to my past - that's gone, finished. It would be nice to wish him a happy birthday and check he's doing OK, but
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I don't cling on to the past but I don't deliberately push a friend away because our relationship has been going on too long. Some friendships die quickly, some last for ages.
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But... I'm wary of opening a Pandora's box, so to speak. I don't want to return to our old days and maybe it's just best to leave sleeping dogs lie etc. Does anyone here keep in touch with their mates from their 20's ?
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I did meet a friend from school again a few months ago, after a gap of 10 years or so. I didn't like him much.
My 20s were only eight years ago so, yes, I keep in touch with lots of them.
I'm still friends with folk I knew from school. My sister is very good at keeping contact with people so she makes a good social conduit.
I'm still friends with several people from University but don't see some of them very often. One girl lives fairly locally so I occasionally go round for dinner.
All of my old school friends still regularly go out on the piss with each other. I don't quite get it myself. I'll gladly go and see them, and I've still got all my friends in London... but I don't feel particularly locked into a clan or peer group.
It's good to connect to the past every so often - it's what shaped us and seeing bits of the past that trouble can help reshape us.
That said, you've changed, they'll have changed: an opportunity for different dynamics and friendships that are relevant today.
Some yes, but most of the people I knew when I was in my 20's aren't worth keeping as friends.
Incidentally, my bestest friend I've been best mate with for 27 years.
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I am still in contact with one bloke from my first graduate job, but rarely drink with him as he lives in another country.
Other people have moved on from where they were and so have I.
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I met up with a few guys from school [35+ years ago] at a reunion in 2009 and we had nothing in common - a few laughs about old times. The school didn't organise another, or if they did I wasn't invited.
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