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WTF. Some of the youff are too polite.
55th B'day earlier this month.
For starters, people can feel invisible and unimportant at any age!
Think of the child who is seen but not heard; the teenager who's overlooked because he or she is not even an adult; the 20-something who has fresh creative ideas for the business but is ignored because of lack of experience; the 30 and 40 year old who is discovering they have sacrificed everything important about themselves for a relationship and a career in which they are just playing a role, and who long to live life again and do things differently.
And conversely, think of many of the people you have hopefully met who are in their 70s and 80s who have great bearing, wisdom, and presence. People who can be wise and funny. (And of course some are a pain in the arse with 70 years of practice.)
Invisibility has a lot about social context and state of mind.
I've just recently read a fascinating book on the subject of loneliness and one of the ideas is that when we experience loneliness we trigger a state of what psychologists call hypervigilance for social threat. We unknowingly begin to experience the world in increasingly negative terms, and both expect and remember instances of rudeness, rejection, and abrasion, giving them great weight than other, more begin or friendly interactions. The cognitive bias is not easy to spot.
I'm not going to compress the argument but it's plausible to expect that others will come to mirror and confirm one's experience. So you'll get a vicious circle of confirmation bias and a self-fulfilling prophesy of negative expectations.
The short version is: some people are invisible all their lives; half of the problem could be them.
Nil Satis Nisi Optimum
I don't think there are many positives to getting older, except that staff in guitar shops treat you nicely, even when they realise you're the shittiest player they've ever seen in their lives.
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A nice clashing v-neck jumper over the top would elevate it out of that man's sartorial reach though. :-)
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My theory is people are either a bit ignorant or, most probably, are distracted by the various demands of life and genuinely didn't see me.
The young uns round my way are no doubt up to mischief ( we all were at that age ) but are a decent bunch.
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