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Afraid I don't have any wise words of wisdom but I'd second all the advice to try and take some time for yourself---quite apart from your own health I'm sure Sheena would rather you were able to enjoy life (as much as you can, in the circumstances) than stressing yourself to the bone.
All the very best.
Man you're all right about looking after myself. I've just had a torrid 12 hours. In the last 6 months I've had these symptoms three times:
- sore balls (lol!)
- sore lower back
- cripplingly sore stomach
- cold sweat, toilet trip and being sick.
One time was after I had lamb at a restaurant, and yesterday I had cottage pie at dobbies. So it may be food poisoning, but given my commitments, I've got a doctor's call next Wednesday. It always clears up after a day.
On our break, too! You're all right, I need to relax..
I'm over the worst of it now but Jesus, I felt at death's door, and that was only 12 hours. I can't imagine how Sheena will feel and for how long. I will be prepared to care for her.
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I have no experience to draw on (so maybe I am talking complete crap) and nothing original to offer, but whatever you do over the next few months, it is going to be fucking tough and there is nothing, absolutely nothing, you can do will change that. It is outside of your control. It isn't your fault, you can't prevent it, you can't really influence it either. I guess if I was in a position similar to Sheena, I would be saying to my wife that she needs to be that rock when I'm gone, and that although it is going to take time, she *will* get past it, and life will go on. I would want her to start ASAP in getting ready to deal with that day after, I'm gone, to be there for the the kids and so they can all pull through together. So cry, swear, despair, get angry, but *refuse* to let the situation break you any more than it already is.
It's tough knowing how much time to take off and when... I hope to get to a Maggie's centre today to talk about the practical side of things..
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You're obviously stressed up to the eyeballs mate, I think that's what's giving you the dodgy stomach. From what I know of you you're hyper at the best of times. Try and relax a bit or you'll burn yourself out and be good to nobody.
Don't discount the hospice, they are wonderful places and will make things a lot easier for all of you, Sheena included, when or if the time comes.
You need to get the girls' dad to help out a lot more than he's doing. It's all very well him saying he's "not a hands-on dad" but at the end of the day they're still his kids. You've got enough on your plate right now, he needs to muck in. (Frankly I'm amazed he hasn't offered already, where IS this man's conscience?).
Take care bud, big hugs to all of you.
Just another comradely pat on the back from me - I lost my best mate last year to a brain tumour, and plenty others here have lost somebody close due to cancer. We can't really do it for you, but you seem to be coping really well.
Enjoy the widdle-fest in Birmingham !
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I met Lisa's "autistic helper" so I know the plan for her future development and suggested her dad set up a meeting. His new wife did our invitations.
I'd love to invite my aunt's and uncles to the wedding as they're family but one aunt looks down her nose at people and while I love my uncle he is an alcoholic and Sheena doesn't want her day ruined.
For years I sniffed at the Scottish folk music Sheena likes but that's all I've been listening to lately.
I'm going to book an official snagger for the house, it's ridiculous housing isn't covered by sale of goods!
We went to a funeral director today as she wants to make sure everything is sorted. While I was ill on our break she took the time to write her friends private letters, but she showed me 4 video messages she left them which really set me off. She's so fantastic, I'm going to have a really tough time living without her.
I'd best get stuff sorted tomorrow - flight at 7am!
(aawwww, I walk in the door and Zoe, her mini-me daughter, is braiding her hair like for the wedding while watching Shrek - lovely moment!)
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If you end up with nothing i'll buy you a guitar.
It won't be the same caliber as some could but it would be yours.
Let me know if you need it man.
I need to write more about all the positives that are happening too. Still need to see about a convertible ride for her as she's always wanted.
Downloaded a shedload of MacMillan pdfs to read on the plane!
Unfortunately I swear my hair at the front has really thinned out during these two weeks - or maybe it's natural lol.. Sheena did always say not to leave it too late or the wedding photos would be rubbish lol..
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Do a Keith Flint for the nuptials
http://i.imgur.com/6GTuV6l.jpg
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Just wanted to say a massive thanks again to everybody for the holiday fund in the other thread. Given the wedding costs and solicitor's fees and house deposit and a whole host of other stuff, it's amazing (read: scary!) how quickly my account has been drained, so the fund has 100% massively helped toward this Disney holiday. We might even sit in and have a nice meal in Disney itself (previous times we thought it was expensive so brought packed lunch lol).
Also many thanks to everybody I met at the guitar show, and to those who've been in touch via phone, text, whatsapp, private messaging. Some people [have gone]/[are going] through the same ordeal or [have]/[have had] cancer (or similar) themselves, and people who haven't faced this but have been in touch etc !! Help from people is foreign to me. I do't get it much from my friends even. So this is great.
Also without announcing it loudly 3 guys off here (I wont say names but you can mention yourselves if you like - I've no issue any which way
I've been working really late nights (or should I say mornings!) to get my project at work progressed. Unfortunately management in the US is becoming more brutal so I think there may only be 2-3 more good years left. I need to plan for that - especially as I'll have the girls to look out for and a big mortgage! I have a Maggie's meeting with the nurse specialist tomorrow then the wedding rehearsal. I still need to figure out my speech. I haven't even spent that much quality time with Sheena of late as I've been glued to the computer getting "stuff" sorted out. Sheena has actually got me some wedding presents - I didn't know that was a thing. I need to think of some things for her. I've always done well in past - plaque's detailing her fine qualities, little medals saying she is my heroine etc. I need to think of something. And I have a possible test drive of a car on Sat and also my soon-to-be step-daughter's 21st that same day.
I look forward to when I can relax on the couch with Sheena. Scarily the wedding is coming much closer. Scary in the sense that time is really marching on and I realise that's one more day gone that I wont get back that I've spent on the computer and not with her. Though in truth she needs her space. In fact she's been a bit snappy with me but we are rock solid - it's just that thing whereby you snap at the one you love as you know you can get away with it! She told the doctor this week no more chemo. And I'm scheduled for an ultrasound for something separate relating to when I was ill a few weeks ago. Oh yeah and the mortgage got approved... here's to being skint for 20 years lol.. I'll be happy if Sheena has some months in the house.
Right, time to get off this computer!
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Just sat down for 5 mins and realised.. this wonderful woman is going to be my wife soon. I look forward to that greatly. There I go logging back in and posting. I'm done for the night!
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