****** TRAVEL FUND FOR @ thomasross20 or DOSH FOR THE ROSS FUND....PLEASE READ ******

Alnico

thomasross20 said:

Guys & gals - don't leave things too late like I have (wedding, house, general commitment and wallet-opening type things) because I tell you, I'm going to regret delaying Sheena's happiness in those things the rest of my life regardless of what anybody says. Sometimes you just need to surrender and do it. I wish I could go back in time and tell my younger self this. Do it today while you have the chance and be happy!

Tommy

You haven't delayed anything.
You've been there and you still are.

The tokens that you mention don't mean as much as that.

C'mon son, stop it.
You're carrying enough weight as it is without carrying your own too.

The sentiment is right and i'm not telling you you're wrong but i am telling you to give yourself some credit.

You're the biggest man i know.

thomasross20

Thanks @Alnico ;;;;;. I'm sitting listening to songs for the wedding video and feeling well soppy! "Time of My Life," "Under the Bridges of Paris (Dean Martin)," "La Vie en Rose (Louis Armstrong)," "Nothing's Gonna Stop Us" etc (not set in stone !). Also this is great:

FYI came across some great old songs - Black Velvet, "I'm the Only One" by Melissa Etheridge etc - fab songs. 

We were at the cinema yesterday (Logan.. bit depressing!) and her hand looked frail on top of mine - it brought a tear to my eye. She's been snappy with me but it's just due to the load on both of us - she's always been the rock but that's me now and it's heart-breaking to see her getting tired so quickly, her side hurting, and getting stressed dealing with this and that. And it feels like real-life is really hitting me and I have to "grow up," if that makes sense. 

We corrected the draft wills tonight - I handed in the power of attorney form at the weekend, the mortgage is nearly sorted and despite the sales team "speeding up" the house build as an unspoken favour I think I'm going to pay for a professional snagger after completion. I'm still checking out cars (MOT is end of March and £185 for my banger), holiday in over a week (thanks to the forum - 3 nights in Disney, one in Paris - and we can afford to sit in Disney itself for a few nice meals), WFH tomorrow and Friday as got wedding & reception venue visits & rehearsals and doctor's (she's going to forgo further chemo), doctor appointment for me (I've been ill) and separate Maggie's meetings with a specialist nurse. Work are lenient but US management is more brutal, I have a super-complex chip and a student I'm mentoring so I'm doing work some nights. It's good for me to work as it gives Sheena a breather, no matter how much I want to cuddle her from now until whenever. Life will go on, I realise that, but I'll always look back with a somewhat torn heart, longing for the past - it's definitely like I'm mourning a little already and apparently that's what some people do. It's only ever at night, though - during the day when I'm up and awake and Sheena is here I'm ok and I keep re-assuring her that I will take care of everybody, that she has nothing to worry about. This mountain of stuff is slowly getting pushed aside - I'm glad I did it like this and took so much on as it would have taken forever otherwise and it took a load off Sheena's back. She's been writing letters and recording videos for everybody, I may already have said. Her best friend and two daughters are coming to Paris with us - we're going by Eurotunnel which is new for all of us. She's got some surprise planned for me - I think I know what it might be but wont say for now.. and she was doing something else for me tonight online but I don't know what - I went out to get some chicken pakoras to give her time to do whatever it was. That's the sort of person she is - always looking out for and doing thoughtful things for others even when she's terminally ill. 

It's really tough giving her space - the last 4 days or so haven't done all that much with her and I've spent SO long on the computer sorting everything out - and now looking at cars - just want to get it over with as time is most important now. Oh, she managed to sell her flat with a move-in date one month after we're expected to go to the new place in case anything happens etc.... so that's another thing taken care of. I applied for Ant & Dec's Saturday night takeaway for her - she loves that show - slim chance but hey. Also this Friday she's going to get a special mention and backstage meet for one of her fave comedians in Glasgow which I helped set up. She's always wanted one of those Mokka cars but I can't skin myself what with all these other costs so hoping to get a convertible experience day or weekend rental for her. 

This is the song we're getting a famous Scottish band to play as we do the signing. They're going to adapt it to "Sheena's Wedding" - it's not the band in the video (especially as I think they're more Irish) shown but I like this version anyway:

thomasross20

Always loved this song (sorry for the thread hi-jack!!)... Check out the top comment on this one! The Corries are brilliant.



Sheena loves this music and I'm really coming round to it but hell does it tug at your heart strings! For me it does, anyway!

thomasross20

It's about time I learnt some Scottish tunes like that, actually....!! Might as well put my heritage to some use lol..

Bridgehouse

thomasross20 said:

It's about time I learnt some Scottish tunes like that, actually....!! Might as well put my heritage to some use lol..

They are fun to learn on mandolin too mate

thomasross20

I've never considered playing Mandolin.. hmm ..

d8m

Bit later than planned but Ive just sent some over

thomasross20

We got back at the weekend - it was amazing. Lots of tears, cuddles, fun rides, smiles, photos and videos. Sheena says it's one of the best holidays she's ever had and I made sure to get lots of videos of her and the girls so they will have something to look back on. 
I'd write more but since getting back it's still non-stop - plus it's her birthday next Friday, and the wedding the week after. 
Another massive thank you for helping us create these amazing memories. When I get time I will try to get a few photos up

littlegreenman

thomasross20 said:

We got back at the weekend - it was amazing. Lots of tears, cuddles, fun rides, smiles, photos and videos. Sheena says it's one of the best holidays she's ever had and I made sure to get lots of videos of her and the girls so they will have something to look back on. 
I'd write more but since getting back it's still non-stop - plus it's her birthday next Friday, and the wedding the week after. 
Another massive thank you for helping us create these amazing memories. When I get time I will try to get a few photos up

Tigger, there'll be plenty of time to post photo's later so don't sweat it, enjoy the birthday time and have a fucking wonderful wedding with your cracking wife-to-be.

If you need a Flash Gordon style electric guitar wedding march, I can knock one up

thomasross20

Lol to that last sentence!! Brilliant.. actually we are doing our own playlist so it is a real mix-up... lots of guitar tunes... but suited for the occasion, of course