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Other people I have known longer, we have drifted apart but still stayed in touch, but no pressure on either side to meet up. With this person, I feel a bit of pressure. It's part of their personality I guess.
Sounds like you became friends in days gone by, when you were probably both different. You recognise how they've changed, and how they react to some of the changes in your life (ie your partner), and you now feel less friendly towards them as a result.
Friends are transient. You make new ones, you lose existing ones - whether deliberately or just through natural life changes. Also the strength/depth of a friendship varies through time. You don't have to excommunicate someone in this situation, but they might not be the first person you call up to have a chat with, or head off for a drink/meal with. Doesn't mean that they're not a "friend", just that they're not so close anymore.
That's natural.
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Partner of many years btw.
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People can change. The individual in question has obviously changed in some way recently, but it can go both ways and it's rarely permanent unless it's triggered by a seriously traumatic event. Sometimes you just have to let them get on with it and have a bit of faith that they'll come back one day.
If you want to continue the relationship then mention it, and if there is no improvement then let the relationship lapse. If you don't want to continue then let it lapse anyway.
Get rid of them immediately and completely. They won't change. They cannot change because it is how their personality functions.
and I have to say, without wanting to sound like a dick, but if you're still mates with this person, despite being present when they're digging at you're partner-you're contributing to the self esteem issue.
Ditch the "friend" yesterday.
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The residual affection for good times in our youth, is tempered by the fact that I don't really like him any more - and the wrongs which caused the initial falling out remain barely beneath the surface, for me.
I attended his 50th birthday party and exchange Christmas cards. He's notionally a 'friend' on Facebook.
I think growing away from certain friends is an inevitable part of getting older. I wouldn't break off all contact - I would simply reduce it. If the relationship were really important, I doubt you would be uncertain as to how to proceed.
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