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"The hardest thing for me was losing contact with friends who you’ve known from when you were a couple. The ones who are really your mates will stick around of course but some will feel awkward and decide they can’t be friends with both sides."
This is SO true as well, all our mutual friends fucked off due to the lies that were told at the breakup, which looking back now was the best thing as it made me realise they werent really my friends at all.
I also relate to what @mikeyrob73 says about friends, one positive thing about a relationship breakup is you do see people for what they really are.
(Incidentally, considering blokes are not supposed to be much good at talking about "feelings" we seem to do pretty well on this forum.)
34 is still very young...
I am worried about that a bit as well - we have many mutual friends but I know most of them will end.
Not that there are any sides to take but they will probably keep meeting whereas I'm not that sociable.
I've just texted my friend whom I was supposed to meet before Xmas, we usually see each other once a year as it's difficult to arrange. He's just told me that he and his missus parted ways few months back. And that he is moving bit closer to me.
They have just got a baby last year.
:-(
Kris, Steve, and Jon have said it all I guess.
Just before Christmas for me. No dramas. Just the ending of a massively important relationship for me. It was on/off for 12 years but has finally finished. Feels strange still.
Anyway. @steveb -- that sucks and I'm sure it feels rubbish right now. But when the dust eventually clears I wouldn't be surprised if you re-evaluate positively. I hope it works out with your 2yr old.
@BigBearKris -- just randomly, when my marriage ended in 2003 I was 39. it prompted me to pick up my guitar again. And that led to playing in bands properly for the first time. Still doing it and still enjoying it.
@FelineGuitars -- definitely good advice up there. I want to find where I left my bloody mojo these last few years before I jump into any relationships. It's weird how I didn't notice it slipping away as this relationship got more problematic. So when it was over I too was a bit, "Who the f*ck am I any more?" I got a spark back this weekend as it happens: just a shift in attitude and a rough plan for a few behavioural changes. It feels like re-discovering a direction again after being stuck for a long time.
You stay strong brother!
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Then it was just problems
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She's re-married and I bear no ill-will (though her new hubby doesn't seem to like me for some reason!).
We did the divorce ourselves, shared the kids, never argued about anything, and it all went pretty smoothly.
For me the split was rejuvenating and I'm more content now, with nobody telling me what to do, making me guess as to why they're upset with me, playing games and so-on.
(I have bought a fair few guitars since then!!!)
Are you in a band??
I used to but that ship has sailed I guess.
I have a friend who plays, he doesn't gig anymore because of kids and busy family life but I was thinking about starting a little side project to keep my mind occupied with something apart from work.
Best wishes.
Been there. At the time I was destroyed, abused and at one point homeless. Lots of guys on here were a massive support to me and even just a keyboard chat to some people stopped me from going down a very dark hole.
Kris - it will get better. And you're in Bournemouth which is a great place to keep you occupied whilst you find yourself again. I even found my new wife in the area.
Friends will take sides and you may be surprised as to who exactly takes yours.
After more than 10 years since separating I could no more go on a date than fly. The whole caper is well and truly over for me now. Not an outcome I’d recommend to anyone.....