End of relationship.

meltedbuzzbox

The relationship thing has been covered but I'd say don't ever give up your life for work, unless it's something you want to do beyond everything else in life. It's never worth losing out on life 

BigBearKris

meltedbuzzbox said:

The relationship thing has been covered but I'd say don't ever give up your life for work, unless it's something you want to do beyond everything else in life. It's never worth losing out on life 

I'm trying not to.

I work with people with autism, various learning disabilities etc - so it's quite demanding mentally and can be quite challenging when it comes to working hours and such. At the moment at work it's really difficult as well as one of our clients has just been diagnosed with brain tumor. May not even survive the op. 
Whereas I've been advised to stay busy and keep my mind occupied so I won't have too much time to worry about my relationship work has been a grim distraction unfortunately.

FarleyUK

Sorry to hear the news mate - I went through a similar stage about 7 years ago; was with a girl for about 7 years, moved in together and actually had a mortgage. Gave up playing guitar for all that time as well. Relationship fell apart after I found her OD'd in our bathroom, which was a nice surprise.

However, the time to myself allowed me to get back into guitar playing and really channel my energy into it. I'm now in a relationship with a superb woman, living together, and am in 2 bands - and love playing the guitar (which the mrs also loves me doing as well).

Chin up - it's a crappy time to start with, but I promise you things will get better - just focus on YOU and what YOU want from your life at this stage.

EricTheWeary

My sympathies for anyone going through a break up. I'll have been married 24 years in May and this is the only 'serious' relationship I've ever had so I've no advice whatsoever.*
Even in my fantasies about the senior admin woman at work MrsTheWeary has died in a tragic but painless accident rather than us breaking up. But I remember the heartbreak from various women saying 'let's just be friends' after a few months so if I multiplied that hurt a few times it must be a bad time. 
Hope it all works out for everyone. 


* Maybe I'm just still in it because I don't know any better! 







 

matdotcodot

When a door closes a cat flap opens.........get a cat.

usedtobe

EricTheWeary said:

My sympathies for anyone going through a break up. I'll have been married 24 years in May and this is the only 'serious' relationship I've ever had so I've no advice whatsoever.*
Even in my fantasies about the senior admin woman at work MrsTheWeary has died in a tragic but painless accident rather than us breaking up. But I remember the heartbreak from various women saying 'let's just be friends' after a few months so if I multiplied that hurt a few times it must be a bad time. 
Hope it all works out for everyone. 


* Maybe I'm just still in it because I don't know any better! 







 

Omg! I could have written the same thing, almost word for word!

FarleyUK

usedtobe said:

EricTheWeary said:

My sympathies for anyone going through a break up. I'll have been married 24 years in May and this is the only 'serious' relationship I've ever had so I've no advice whatsoever.*
Even in my fantasies about the senior admin woman at work MrsTheWeary has died in a tragic but painless accident rather than us breaking up. But I remember the heartbreak from various women saying 'let's just be friends' after a few months so if I multiplied that hurt a few times it must be a bad time. 
Hope it all works out for everyone. 


* Maybe I'm just still in it because I don't know any better! 







 

Omg! I could have written the same thing, almost word for word!

....MrsTheWeary?

usedtobe

The gist of it was the same. I’ve never imagined Mrsthe weary’s untimely demise, honestly..!

BigBearKris

matdotcodot said:

When a door closes a cat flap opens.........get a cat.

We do have a cat actually. 
This will be a difficult one as she brought the cat so technically it's hers. 

EricTheWeary

FarleyUK said:

usedtobe said:

EricTheWeary said:

My sympathies for anyone going through a break up. I'll have been married 24 years in May and this is the only 'serious' relationship I've ever had so I've no advice whatsoever.*
Even in my fantasies about the senior admin woman at work MrsTheWeary has died in a tragic but painless accident rather than us breaking up. But I remember the heartbreak from various women saying 'let's just be friends' after a few months so if I multiplied that hurt a few times it must be a bad time. 
Hope it all works out for everyone. 


* Maybe I'm just still in it because I don't know any better! 







 

Omg! I could have written the same thing, almost word for word!

....MrsTheWeary?


I've given a LOL but damn beaten to it really  

Clashman

Plenty more fish..

PC_Dave

As my Dad always says:

”One door shuts, another one slams in your face”.

Absolutely no help whatsoever, cheers Dad.

rawk100

I was in a relationship for 7 years and then it ended amicably. We had no kids or mortgage and werent married. It was sad but then after a while i realised that we had been doomed anyway, and I actually kicked myself for not splitting up earlier coz really we were flogging a dead horse. I then had fun trying to hump everything in sight before meeting and marrying my missis. 

I hope you get through this OK. 

Teetonetal

Constantly amazed at the number of people
Who think being in a relationship is something worth aspiring to.

Yeah it can be nice, but there is so much life out there. Go find it.

BigBearKris

Teetonetal said:

Constantly amazed at the number of people
Who think being in a relationship is something worth aspiring to.

Yeah it can be nice, but there is so much life out there. Go find it.

I agree with you that life can have a lot to offer and being in total and independent control of it sounds great. 
It's just that at the end of the day I wouldn't want to come back to empty home and things I enjoy - I would like to share with someone close to me.

duotone

I hope that it will all work out ok in the end & dare I say it, you will probably be happier.  It might not work for you, but I find thinking selfishly & then writing out a list of what I really want helps and gives me something to work/look forward to.  Getting it down on a ‘piece of paper instead of jumbled up in my head seems to focus me more.

Phil_aka_Pip

BigBearKris said:

matdotcodot said:

When a door closes a cat flap opens.........get a cat.

We do have a cat actually. 
This will be a difficult one as she brought the cat so technically it's hers. 

I've heard that the splitup can be amicable regarding the house, the car, the kids, the record collection etc ... and then gets really acrimonious over the subject of who gets custody of the cat.

JAYJO

Clashman said:

Plenty more fish..

Hes just lost two pussys! doubt a fish will cut it!


Get back out there mate and enjoy yourself. Your at the ideal age for the womens. Your  a Rock Star!  an Italian Stallion!  Your Rocky The Rockstar. Time and Tide waits for no man.
Good luck  chin up.

Phil_aka_Pip

richardhomer said:

My advice is to not leave the dating thing too long.

After more than 10 years since separating I could no more go on a date than fly. The whole caper is well and truly over for me now. Not an outcome I’d recommend to anyone.....

You can drink what you like when you like. You choose the music on your stereo. Takeaways for 1 are usually half the price of takeaways for 2. What's not to like?

Teetonetal

Phil_aka_Pip said:

BigBearKris said:

matdotcodot said:

When a door closes a cat flap opens.........get a cat.

We do have a cat actually. 
This will be a difficult one as she brought the cat so technically it's hers. 

I've heard that the splitup can be amicable regarding the house, the car, the kids, the record collection etc ... and then gets really acrimonious over the subject of who gets custody of the cat.

Yeah, I mean who wants a fucking cat in their life.
You have it
no you.
etc.

BigBearKris said:

Teetonetal said:

Constantly amazed at the number of people
Who think being in a relationship is something worth aspiring to.

Yeah it can be nice, but there is so much life out there. Go find it.

I agree with you that life can have a lot to offer and being in total and independent control of it sounds great. 
It's just that at the end of the day I wouldn't want to come back to empty home and things I enjoy - I would like to share with someone close to me.

See, every time I go away I relearn who much better life is when you are by yourself. I'm a total loaner at heart. I generally find being with other people deeply irritating and annoying. My poor wife!!