I thought I'd try and bring a bit of mums net to tfb and do a thread on fatherhood...
Our son was born 2 weeks ago on the 27th September and it's been a super steep learning curve ever since. The first week was total hell in terms of problems breastfeeding, no sleep for anyone and just a very stressed wife with baby blues etc. We are now discovering he is a colic-y baby so has problems with wind etc. Sadly I have to go back to work tomorrow so my wife is being left on her own and I'm dreading it a bit as I'm not sure how she'll cope. Thankfully, wife's mum is coming over and my mum is also going to be about so hopefully it'll be some help.
The old cliché about babies not having a manual, it being hard going etc is all true but not the extent people think it is. I'm finding it a real struggle and we have both admitted that we wish he was older and had a bit of a routine. If anyone hasn't had kids and is reading this, it really is hard, hard work! It's amazing how much it disrupts your life and what you though was going to be hard is a lot harder. As of right now, it's hard to see the wood from the trees and the light at the end of the tunnel is a very far way away but we are heading towards it...
I'm sure there are plenty of father's on here so any info, experience etc please chip in
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I'm a mere beginner being part way through the first.
It does get better - then it gets harder again!
From my own experience - use a dummy. We have a 3 year old thumb sucker...
If your wife has help from family - concentrate on yourself. You need some quality sleep to function correctly at work.
Good luck.
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They do pick up your vibe, so make a concerted effort to not be grumpy, even though you havent slept etc
Keep us posted.
Colic is horrible - my little boy is two in January and still suffers. We have to watch what he eats before bed otherwise none of us get any sleep.
Keep smiling and no matter what, keep your wife as happy as you can. She has a lot more to deal with than you do - physically and emotionally - so don't treat any snapping etc the same as you used to.
And ENJOY IT! Yes these initial weeks are hard work but believe me the time starts to fly soon...
If you think its hard going now, just wait until they reach teenage years. Still you have around 13 years to dwell on it
As for the advice, a lot of people say the same and I'm glad you guys have had similar experiences. Guitar has taken a proper back step for now but it's quite liberating.
its very hard work and you guys all know it too well bit thanks for the support guys . Just to add to this, we're hoping to move in the next month or so ....!
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