So... my missus and I have decided to part ways.
We know each other since high school and been together for 9 years. It's been a good one, full of good memories, holidays etc.
For some time (November last year) we've been drifting apart. No cheating, no abuse - just a regular couple's fight resulted in quiet few weeks, that has turned into sleeping in separate bedrooms - on top of very busy time at work - it was the beginning of the end.
We were very good friends (maybe we still will be, although from my experience it's not a good idea to see your exes) and were like "old married couple" for quite some time. I did actually see us getting old together...
We never had kids - which I guess contributed to it a little bit (I always wanted kids, she couldn't have one) - but we decided that way and never had a disagreement over it.
We don't have a mortgage together, So there will be no financial drama. Not married either, so it should be quick and easy.
It's just thinking about moving out and fresh start that freaks me out a bit. I'm not even thinking about getting into another relationship as I am so busy with work that barely have time to socialise, not to mention the depressing effect that will come sooner or later, No doubt. I am 34yo so not decided to give up my life just yet and focus on what I can do to make things better for myself.
Sorry for such a personal and meaningless post, but all my friends and family of course know her as well and just wanted to vent a bit.
Comments
Chin up and maybe buy another guitar.
Over last couple of years my interest in playing guitar decreased so much that apart from reading the forum and looking up stuff online I barely touched a guitar.
Maybe it's a good time to start again...
Seriously: If you value it, take/fetch it yourself
It's just a closing chapter, it will open another one.
Hated hearing it at the time, but it has been very true.
Sorry to hear it mind, these things are never easy
Sorry to read that. At least you're not at each others throats and things sound sensible.
As joeyowen said, treat this as an exciting new beginning. You never know what is around the corner. Often the good stuff happens in life when you least expect it.
If all else fails, concentrate on the MILF thread![:) :)](/plugins/EmojiExtender/emoji/fb/1.gif)
All the best Kris,,,
I can't help about the shape I'm in, I can't sing I ain't pretty and my legs are thin
But don't ask me what I think of you, I might not give the answer that you want me to
Thanks mate - I've neglected those ladies with lack of appropriate attention recently ;-)
Yeah... I must fix that window latch.
I don't mind your post - the whole point of this thread was to open up and share whereas I am not very 'sharing' person when it comes to emotions etc.
Thanks for kind words here guys. I appreciate those.
A good friend of mine told me recently (when I was going through a dark time) to remember that it's not a pit, it's a tunnel.
Relationships can be tough, maybe you could try reading "Hold me Tight" by Dr Sue Johnson. If you can read it together (I don't mean the blokes, I mean each of you with your partners) it can really help.
Lord knows life ain't for sissies sometimes, but we're all still here. So we must be pretty badass. Or so I tell myself.
Much sympathy for you guys.
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The hardest thing for me was losing contact with friends who you’ve known from when you were a couple. The ones who are really your mates will stick around of course but some will feel awkward and decide they can’t be friends with both sides.
All the best to you guys that are going through this. Never easy when a partnership goes down the pan, but it can and often does get better.