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That or the slipper was the usual and he once threw a knife at me.
I was a hyper active child and a bit cheeky but nothing more than that.
Suffice to say it didn't get him anywhere apart from me resenting him more and more the older I got.
I will never smack my own son
Seriously: If you value it, take/fetch it yourself
I have daughters, and how on earth could I hit them FFS? Its wrong and brutal. I think it sends out the wrong message too: violence is an accetable consequence of supposed wrongdoing. Its not.
I was twatted all over the place as a kid by my Dad and sometimes my Mum. WIth all sorts of things. It just made me resentful and angry. DIdn't stop me doing anything. All it did was lead me to respect them less. In fact, it probably made me worse.
Its made me resent and hate violence for sure.
Its a sign of weakness in the parent - you cant control your kids, or bring them up well enough, without hitting them to reinforce the point. total weakness and bullying.
You teach your kids right and wrong, of course, but reinforcing those lessons with slaps, smacks (aka beatings) IMO is totally contrary to that. SOciety doesn't tolerate emphasisng points with violence, so I don't see why its a good idea to insert threat of pain and violence as a consequence of (what the parent deems to be) unacceptable behaviour.
apart from that, yeah, all for it.
"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein
IMO, it is ALL about weakness and anger and frustration. you don't need to hit a kid to punish behaviour, you really don't. Its bad parenting.
Smacking is physical violence - why isn't it? Its not a violent beating, but it is violence.Its using physical force against another person.
If I smacked (not punched, a slap, but it wouldn't be on the arse cos I am manly) a bloke I could foreseeably get done for a public order offence, its unlikely but by letter of the law, possible.
If I smacked my wife to make a point, I could get done.
Why is it different in the case of hitting a child? Where's this line that makes it OK?
You say its about gettting through to a child who's lost control: I'd say that is the case in less than 5% of events of smacking a child. My youngest used to have massive fits, proper bennies. Never got smacked. We;d take her out of the situation, somewhere totally different, til she calmed down (usually locked her in the boot of the car, did the job every time, lol)
seriously though, I cant' judge everyone in every event, but I think that IMO its an unneccesary thing. Its an easy option, whatever the intention. We're not simple animals, we don't need to cuff our kids to get a point across or remedy a situation.
"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein
I thought title read SMOKIN' children........why if I ever caught a child of mine smokin' they'd get the thrashin' of their lives
Seriously: If you value it, take/fetch it yourself
I can't ever recall getting smacked by my folks.
Got strapped at school (across the hand hurt like hell), but didn't bother me at all (a sociopathic little f*cker had shoved a sharpened pencil in my arse and I was going to stick a compass in his come what may - teacher walked in and strapped us both for larking around in science labs - I never did get my revenge, main feeling was of being hard done by ). Got a few other arbitary wallops for fights and debaggings, but I was generally a right little swot. Nuns ... very into physical violence as is well documented - the most shocking thing I saw was a public strapping across the buttocks (clothes on thankfully) for a 3rd former who beat up a 1st year within a few weeks of starting. Very unnerving.
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you're an adult, you should be able to outdo a kid and sort them out without resorting to hitting them to get through. You can excuse it all you like, justify it even, but its unecessary.
Oh, the car boot thing: that was a joke.
Jal - I went to a school run by nuns. I agree, they were brutal. Always beating us with rulers, canes, sticks. Nasty gets. Sister Joseph Mary - she used to laugh as she hit us with a ruler across the knuckles. That's normal isn't it? Twat.
I did smack my kids, and I feel bad about it now.
I treated mine in a similar way that parents treated me.
"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein
And saying that many people who don't smack their children, resort to cruel and abusive psychology instead, is frankly offensive and probably as ignorant as what you are inferring I am, when arguing my point against smacking.
Its all about balance, and personal choice, and I don't agree with government imposed bans on smacking either, I think that's a step too far.
I understand what drives people hit their kids, but it is a weakness IMO, and it is unnecessary. It sends all the wrong messages out: what you are saying when you hit a child, is that under certain circumstances, violence (and it is violence) is acceptable. That draws a line out - you define a behaviour that is acceptable, because you, the parent have now stepped over the line whereby physical painful actions become an acceptable armament in disciplining your children. That resonates with the child, and becomes part of their world view, that certain things lead to getting hit.
Violence - emotive word, but using physical force, on someone else, with pain involved, is violence.
Seriously: If you value it, take/fetch it yourself
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