Wondering how people deal with this situation.
We had some people stay over the weekend.
More friends with the woman in the couple than the bloke- who I'd only met once before for about an hour.
She was fun to be around, as usual- chatty, interesting and interested.
He was a bit of a tit- very argumentative, dismissive, negative and constantly challenging what people said- he was worse with a few drinks in him but he was kinda like that when sober too.
Not sure why he was doing it, I suspect he is uncomfortable in social situations- but it was unnecessary and unwanted behaviour.
We both blithely ignored rising to the bait and just continued on with our weekend as though nothing was going on.
Would you have raised the issue with him, or his partner?
Would you do it after the fact?
We don't want to lose touch with her, but if they come as a pair (and they do, given they are married) then it becomes a clear choice of putting up with it or not having much to do with either of them.
What say you, brain trust?
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She has mentioned in the past that he can be a bit difficult to be with.
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PS I guess the guy maybe didn't want to be at yours anyway?
Just saying. Why didn't you just ask him about it particularly? I mean, it's no good whinging afterwards, if you don't put stuff out, people will never know and you're go around in circles.
I'm not sure I would raise it unless he is outright rude to you or your partner.
I know someone like this but I have known him a long time so I do challenge him on this and his behavior has improved. It's difficult if you don't know the person.
I would maybe try to limit the visits and arrange to meet them on neutral territory.
Either that or you could laugh it off and try not to take him seriously, can be difficult though.
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As stated by others, if everyone knows it but him I'm not sure he'll change
which would be a shame.
Any chance of a you and him chat / drinks and see what he's like then?
On the other hand, it's a form of bullying to be so rude and negative and I feel fight fire with fire sometimes, or call them out on it. Depends on the mood!Generally I try to keep peace.
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my father in law is the worst for it.
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its often a coping strategy from work or other aspects of life that just become 2nd nature
you can only coach it out of them, you can't do it just by saying so
Do you have access to a large wooden man and some Bees?
Our neighbour is a keeper.
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