I am sorry to do such a post but I need an outlet to vent and keep sane.
Through the night we had a visit from the Police to inform us that our vital and very lovely youngest son had died very suddenly at a housewarming party.
His name is James and he was just 25 and along with our older lad our pride and joy, he was also a musician and excellent guitarist who did as I did not and learnt theory as well as the rest.
We are totally and completely desolated by this and cannot even see him to say farewell until Monday or Tuesday which is sheer torture for us all. We understand why but it does not help.
We are cycling between being numb, angry and disbelief. We have a James shaped hole in our life and hearts now.
How do you bear the unbearable and make sense of it?
We have no faith to comfort us and he chose not to accept religion by his own decision so we want to be true to his stated wishes to the full and it will be a humanist ceremony.
It is as bad an experience as you would expect it to be and I urge parents to cherish their sons and daughters every day because it can all change in a heartbeat.
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I'm truly devastated for you and your Family, Johnny. What an awful thing to happen.
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Seriously: If you value it, take/fetch it yourself
Offset "(Emp) - a little heavy on the hyperbole."
So sorry to hear that.
Thoughts are with you and your family
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Mostly we feel robbed of what he was going to become and our times together where he wanted us to play live together, silly and irrational I know but at times like this the wee things are magnified and his passing is made all the more real.
I really wish I could swap places with him and would in a heartbeat. But the truth is my wife and son need me to be strong enough to help them through it.
He never got to fulfill his potential which is a horrible truth we have to come to terms with.
I guess I wrote this because typing it out helped to express my grief in the first time alone in the house since it happened and I needed to demonstrate my love and loss for my son to myself.
Not trying to parade my grief just struggling to hold it together with everyone out to bring our grandson round.
But thanks for your comments they are comforting to an extent and much appreciated at this frankly surreal and scary time.
Off to start as much of the arrangements as possible so time to pull myself together for the family's sake..
I'm not locked in here with you, you are locked in here with me.
Have emailed you John.
Be strong for the family, but grieve properly too.
Emp's suggestion is a good one - you certainly need to share all the feelings with someone who's not directly involved and suffering similarly.